Literally crying and feel like such a wuss. I can’t eat nearly anything without the thought of it making me sick. In two days it will be like two weeks since we found out we’re pregnant. Today was the first time throwing up. I can’t imagine it getting worse. I’m such a baby. I read up a lot on morning sickness. Recommendations: small meals, high protein, non-greasy foods, frozen fruits, stay hydrated etc.
I cried two times, then I just got so excited! Gradually, I felt myself starting to put up a wall to protect myself from any unexpected circumstances. I love what Louie said, ‘Be happy for what is, in the moment. Don’t negate that for what could go wrong. As things unfold we’ll face each new circumstance as it comes.’
I hired my first life coach in 2014. It was the best decision I made that year.
At a time in my life when I was experiencing extreme burnout at work and frustration in an overly angry population, Asha was my personal advocate for self-care. One of my fav takeaways as her client, was not to practice yoga (or any physical activity) during menstruation and on/during
the New Moon or Full Moon. There’s a whole science behind it (ask Siri). All life forms mirror the cycles of the moon: birth, life, death, rebirth. What is seemingly a period of lull inactivity is just as necessary as more energetic fiery phases. These phases are permission from the universe to stop doing and go with the flow.
My life coach literally changed my life.
I stopped working with Asha a year ago this summer. Since then I’ve faithfully continued the inner work, but secretly hoped for another to come alongside as a guide on this roller coaster of self evolution… meet Madeline!
We meet once a week to discus simple doable steps to manifest the life I want.
Wrapping up week (1) here are a few milestones:
Kicked my a.m. sugary coffee habit to the curb!
Obtained more mental clarity and stamina at work.
Personal accountability and reason to stay dedicated to my at-home yoga practice.
Loss of cravings for fast foods that provide little/ no nutritional value.
Personal health is an investment not an expense. I’m living proof that doing the work works! With a life coach I saw vision boards come to fruition, a ten year career move towards a direction more inline with who I am, and closed-mined relationships replaced with healthy expansive connections. I can’t stress it enough. Look into hiring a life coach if you, like me, crave moving past limiting self beliefs into a more expansive version of yourself. It’s time to unleash the beast (or at least try it once!) – Valerie
First Karma Healing Session with my mentor. Whew! Can you tell it was therapeutic?
You’ve probably heard someone say you have an old soul or a young soul. That’s because as we travel through different human experience we emerge life enhanced or traumatized. There’s only so much the willpower can take before we must break up the patterns and let go of the shackles that bind us (Asha Ramakrishna).
It takes conscious choice, emotional presence, and personal declaration that we are free from whatever it is that is holding us back!
I love miracles! Did you know that you are super powerful? The Universe wants to support your dreams and visions when they expand the greater good!
Yesterday started off a little silly for me. I felt drawn to wear my work uniform (not pictured here) and got dressed in my best British accent. Lo and behold upon my arrival this lovely Londoner’s first day on the job and me as her trainer (glad I wore my uniform!)
We exchanged conversation and discovered we share a common mantra.
“Knowledge of the journey can never substitute putting one foot in front of the other.” And “Every journey begins with a single step.”
Live on purpose. Share your light. The world will thank you!
Tomorrow marks the last day of 2014 in the Chinese lunisolar calendar. As 2014 comes to an end, again, there’s no time like the present to make that list of what worked last year: at home, 9 to 5, and personal business. It’s a time to reflect, without labeling good or bad, and set the intention for 2015 with gratitude for whatever comes your way.*
You may have noticed my old Facebook photos pounding your newsfeed today. That’s because my memory sucks! This afternoon I sat in silence (minus three barking dogs) reflecting on the past year — I could barely remember what happened last week! I thought about holidays… Did I work? Did we go away? I had to pull out my phone and scroll through Facebook to recall any highlights of the year.
I noticed a lot of progress in 2014 came for me and my Beachbody clients after going public with our intention and journey. Yes there were hiccups, but sharing our setbacks minimized their power (i.e. not drinking enough water during the day, missing two — three consecutive workouts etc.) Sharing our struggles created a platform for encouragement and thus support. Clients that were serious saw huge progress in a short amount of time (see insert above).
There were also moments of great joy in 2014 that made my 9 to 5 tolerable. Moments that forced me out of my comfort zone and required personal financial sacrifice. Our ski trip with my fiancé’s friends last February, roughing it out in Georgia during a cold hunting season, and traveling solo to Boston mid-winter to meet, for the first time, other female entrepreneurs to name a few. Change of scenery especially alone always provides opportunity for growth and expansion.
This year I intend to do more of anything that creates expansion in my life. There is so much restriction already and way too much time wasted in that department. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t!
So seriously think about your desires for 2015 (that means putting it out on paper) and surround yourself with people who support you — even if that means me, myself, and I for a while. We’ve all been there more often than not. Practice gratitude for everyday miracles (or coincidences as most people call them) and get ready to witness more and more in your life. The last three months of doing just that have been a game changer for me!
A coworker recently asked if my fiancé and I exchanged Valentine gifts (I laughed). “Maybe a card or candy, but I’m pretty sure we didn’t even celebrate birthdays last month.” The overall response was, ‘OMG if my boyfriend ever!’ or, ‘He knows he better get me blah blah blah and blah blah blah.’ The conversation sat with me several days. I realized my relationship with my fiancé is a constant expression of affection (i.e. filling my gas tank at 6 o’clock in the morning so I can make it to work) not spending money on what society says we should give each other one day out of the year. True love is constant and really begins with an innate self-love, enough to be our own Valentine.
Sound feminist? Our country will drop $17.3 billion this Valentine’s Day with an average of half spending $133.91 on candy, cards, dinner and gifts while our divorce rate is about 50% the first time around 60–67% the second and almost 75% the third*. So what’s the real problem with relationships?
Most of us never really learn how to develop the single most important relationship we have, relationship with self. Growing up in a religious home, I was always taught JOY stands for Jesus, Others, You — last. Putting me first felt conceited and selfish, until quit recently.
See the last three months I invested in myself. I listened to much advice from successful business men and women I follow and found a life coach (stay with me, I was skeptical too!) In order to grow, really excel in whatever it is that sparks a fire in you, you must invest time, energy, and yes sometimes even money to get where you want to be.
After an extremely bad reaction to an allergy shot this weekend, piercing ear drums and a throat that felt like a cat was climbing up and down, I took a week off my normal exercise routine and vegged out! In years prior I would have obsessed compulsively over not doing something physical — combined feelings of bloat, setback, and depression taking over. This time was different. I took a warm bath, made myself some tea, ate whatever I wanted, and just breathed. One of the biggest lessons learned from Asha, my mentor, was the extreme importance of self-care.
So many women put themselves at the bottom of their to-do list. This Valentine’s Day, and every day from now on, I encourage you to have compassion for yourself. Love yourself first. Buy flowers. Enjoy a glass of wine (or tea). Take the night off! It’s no coincidence flight attendants instruct us to secure our own oxygen mask prior to anyone else. If you want a lot out of your body, you have to give your body a lot. A lot. So stop shortchanging yourself and in turn everyone else around you. Start investing in your most important relationship, yourself. And hey, go easy on you!